Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Ineffective and effective jealousy responses - TIP

Here are some behaviors that don't work when you feel jealousy and want to do something about it:

  • Begging
  • Complaining
  • Whining
  • Self defeating
  • Destructive
  • Violent
Instead try these:
  • Open question: "What is ok and what is not in our relationship?", "If I was doing what you do, would you be ok with that?"
  • Confident - I can't be touched
  • Mirroring tactic
  • Humor
  • Releasing (More on that one in another article)