Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Why jealousy is often the exact opposite to what you want - ARTICLE

Go back to the original idea of jealousy.

The reason why nature created this instinctual response is to protect the relationship and family space.

Children and family need security.

Justified jealousy is your way of expressing a desire to protect your relationship’s space.

Again, the original goal is to protect your relationship.

The goal is to protect love, harmony and freedom.

What you want is your partner to be empowered and fulfilled.

This is what your love expresses, right?

This is what you owe to each other when you join forces within a relationship.

You partner to empower each other.

You partner because you want the best for each other.

The moment you express obsessive jealousy, you work against these goals.

In fact you destroy part of your own dream.

You attack what you care for the most: your partner’s joy and life satisfaction.

What is the solution?

The solution is to use your power in a different way.

Too much control kills life force.

You want to open your arms around your partner and give her space.

You want to replace the jealousy reaction by an empowering message of trust.

Imagine how this makes you feel.

Imagine what this brings in your relationship.

Control is a relationship killer.

Most couples who split run away from a feeling of limitation.

The relationship becomes too constricting and they need space.

It doesn’t need to be that way.

The first reason to stay together is not because of control. It is because of love.

Love and trust are the solution.

You want to replace the obsessive jealousy reaction by these qualities.

In the next few pages, you will discover exactly how to manifest trust and shift the dynamics of obsessive jealousy.