Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Jealous of the men she works with - ARTICLE

Is your partner a flirt?

Is she surrounded by a couple of attractive colleagues?

The question is: What can you do about it?

Maybe you too take some lessons with an attractive fitness trainer.

Maybe you have a secret crush on one of your colleagues.

These situations happen in life.

Can you stop them from happening? No. It is simple.

You need to keep on living.

Light flirts are okay as long as you don’t act on them.

It is okay for your partner to have contact with other men, even if they are handsome and very attractive.

The truth is that she is with you.

It is with you she decides to be.

Spending time with others is healthy. It is part of life to work with others.

This won’t change.

What you can change is the way you stand in it.

Communicate openly with your partner. There is no taboo!

The moment you can share and tease each other with it, you bring this whole issue to something very light and even fun.

Infidelity is an act. It is not a thought. It is not a fantasy.

It is okay to dream, to look and to enjoy someone’s company.

This is not a crime.

It is not infidelity.

It is natural and healthy to get validation from other people.

It is okay to lightly flirt with someone.

If your relationship’s boundaries are too tight, you limit yourself and constrict the relationship.

You simply asphyxiate it!

The solution is to establish a higher level of trust.

Talk about it with your partner. Be light and open about it.

Accept these situations as part of life.

Remember: It is still with you she decides to be.

If you are in a committed relationship, there is a moral agreement between the two of you. Looking at another man does not break this moral agreement.

Give each other some space. It is healthy and truly beneficial for the relationship.

Give her the gift of your trust.

If you see her chatting with another man, you can as well express a positive form of jealousy. It is okay to claim your partner and show the world you two are together.

Do this if she is comfortable with it: go and kiss her in front of other men and send a clear message that she is not available.

This is a healthy type of action and is a “couple statement”.

It is an affirmation of your mutual love.

Can you see how it works?

The key is always trust and complicity.

You know she is with you, even when she chats with another guy.