Thursday, January 28, 2010

Call me when you need me instead of unloading your insecurities on her - ARTICLE

Once you start working with these jealousy files you will see that most of the strategies to handle the situations you face are already written and in a way, you are already using them.

All you might need now is someone who helps you stay focused when delusional or unjustified fears kick in.

The worst you can do is to go to her for help when this happens.

Remember that she's not your therapist.

It's not her job to reassure you systematically, especially if these episodes are frequent.

So, here is the strategy I want to share with you:

Here is what I suggest you do:

Next time, you have an episode where you feel insecure or jealous, pick up the phone and call me for an unscheduled power kick!

If you get my voice mail, you leave me a message and I'll call you back as soon as I can.

It is that simple.

It will give you a safe space to share what's happening and we'll check together the best strategy to handle this.

What I give you is more power.

This is not therapy, ok! I think you are perfectly fine! This is about performance and life mastery and this is EXACTLY what I can help you with.

I have a few clients I coach that way on jealousy issues and we end up having non scheduled sessions every now and then.

I might speak with them maybe a couple times a month.

Sometimes, I don't hear from them for a few weeks or months.

This is it. You won't get broke and I can tell you that the results I see happening in these guys are amazing.

The advantage of having me on call that way is that you don't bring these issues to your girlfriend. In a way you keep her out of it which REALLY protects your couple.

In my opinion, this is by far the best way to go...

Yes, you'll need to get some coaching credits - My services are not free and I know it is an investment.

However it is well worth it and I made it very easy and totally affordable for you.

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