Thursday, June 11, 2009

Her work always comes first! - ARTICLE

Another big potential source of disapointment for guys!

This is another area that can create lots of tension and you need a solid strategy to tackle that.

She can work as much as she wants!

That's her time!

That's her career!

She is free!

This is the general idea.

Trying to limit her or force her to spend time with you will achieve the exact opposite to what you want.

What you can do is openly invite her for things which are fun and let her make her own choices.

You can say things like:

"We'll be going out with Paul, his girlfriend and two other buddies to this new club... I heard it is pretty fantastic! I know you often need to stay late at work on Friday so, you are of course totally free to choose if you want to join us or not..."

You see, the moment you try to force her, she feels she has the right to defend herself.

If what you offer is simply an open invitation it is HER choice and HER responsibility to do what what she wants with it.

If she feels she misses opportunities, than she can only blame herself.

The essential key in all this is that you must have a life beyond what you share with her.

If you are simply bored at home waiting for her to come back and entertain you, that's not too empowering, is it?

You need to activate your social life and build up connections where she is not involed.

This will give you a whole new social base and ad an extra refreshing edge to your relationship.