Thursday, May 17, 2007

Should you tell her if you have been spying on her?

Unless you found something and want to confront her, no!

It is not necessary!

You need to forgive yourself, realize that your suspicions were ungrounded and that you can in fact trust her.

When you spy on her, you take a risk!

If you feel guilty, you need to be able to live with your actions and forgive yourself.

Consider that you did what was right at that time. It was your best shot at defending your relationship and showing that you cared.

Learn from that experience and discover exactly why you will not do it again:
  • You realized that your fears were delusional.
  • You prefer trusting her.
  • You did change and mature emotionally.
  • You were vulnerable at that time and have found yourself back.
  • Etc.

If your couple is strong and you know that telling her would not be an issue, it is okay to open up of course.

However, many women can't take this type of behavior!

It could destroy the trust she has in you!

If your priority is to protect your relationship, act accordingly and don't tell her anything she can't take, really.

If you think it was a mistake, it was yours, not hers!

Deal with it!

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