Friday, May 11, 2007

My boyfriend is super jealous! - He thinks it's just normal!

Many guys will keep on using jealousy or control until you tell them to stop.

Obviously this bothers you, right?

The truth is that your life belongs to you. You have the right to decide for yourself what you want.

Even when you get married, believing that this gives your partner the right to tell you what to do or not is a mistake.

So, why do some couples believe that it's okay for a man to limit his wife's freedom?

Well... Actually this is such an old fashioned idea now that not many women embrace such idea any more.

The power balance in couples did shift in the last 50 years depending on where you live and your cultural background.

The question now is: what to do about it?

Any time you claim your freedom back, you will face resistance.

You need to go to battle and design new boundaries with your partner.

Now, you need to be smart with this.

Claiming your freedom is your right as a human being.

You have the right to decide for yourself what you want or don't want.

The moment you express that power and reject your partner's authority, you are backed up by your own spirit and a force which is much vaster than yourself.

Ultimately, this has to do with human dignity.

The best way to go is to educate your partner. Tell him exactly what is okay and what is not in the way he communicates with you.

The second step is to get him this material:

http://vitalcoaching.com/malejealousy.htm

And get him to work on it.

Have weekly discussions on this topic for as long as it stays an issue for you.

Your relationship needs to blossom! It can't blossom if one or both partners feel limited in the relationship

To your power!

vitalcoach