Friday, May 11, 2007

How to respond to jealousy triggers

When you get jealous, there is always a trigger!

The first step is to identify the trigger and the situation where jealousy pops up.

If you analyze your jealousy challenges, you will notice that you can usually summarize them to 2 or 3 key relationship situations:
  • It might be her ex calling.
  • Her attitude when you go out.
  • She taking off to the gym in the evening.
  • Her male colleague texting her when she is with you.
  • etc.

Now, identify the top 2 or 3 situations which trigger jealousy in your case.

Write them down!

You now have a clear target, right?

The goal is to shift the dynamics in that specific situation.

You can either:

  • Educate her and get her to shift her behavior.

or

  • Shift the way you respond to that specific trigger.

This last option will usually be the way to go for a guy.

Why? Because that's what usually gives you the best long lasting results.

What we just did is very simple:

We reduced the jealousy challenge to a couple of situations you can easily analyze and oversea.

Instead of saying: "I am a jealous guy and I don't know what to do..."

You are now saying: "I feel uncomfortable when I see her having a chat with her ex... How can I shift my attitude so that this no longer bothers me?"

See what happened? We made it very specific!

This simplifies and reduces the challenge to a size you can easily handle!

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