Friday, May 11, 2007

How to make sure that your girlfriend does not leave you over a jealousy issue

Girls do break up with guys over jealousy issues.

If you don't want this to happen to you, you need to take action and get rid of whatever limits her in your relationship.

You might think: "Well, if I give her total freedom, isn't she going to cheat on me?"

What do you think?

I think it actually works the other way round!

The more you limit her, the more she'll want to run away with another guy!

Your new attitude is called trust!

You replace jealousy, possessiveness and control by a refreshing quality of trust!

Of course, you'll have a conversation in the early stages of your relationship where you define exactly what commitment means to both of you.

You could say: "I could not stand you cheating on me. I know that if it happens, we are done! I have no problem with you having male friends as long as I know you are not intimate with them. I need to be number one in your life..."

This is called setting up boundaries. You tell her what you feel is okay or not.

You talk about this a couple of times before you fully commit to each other.

She might give you a similar set of boundaries.

Once this is done. You have to set each other free!

What does this mean exactly?

You simply don't limit each other.

No control!

No demands!

Respect + Trust!

There is only one key reason why girls break up with guys: they feel limited in the relationship they are in.

When she breaks up, she says things like: "I need space!"

What she is in fact saying is: "I can't breathe! I feel limited! I am not myself anymore!"

Got it?

If you don't want this to happen to your girlfriend or wife, you want to position yourself in a way which is freeing her, not limiting her.

Are you afraid of giving her freedom? I bet you are!!!

Trusting someone is always a risk you take!

Now, trusting turns into the most exhilarating experience when you express it!

The complicity and connection which can be born from expressing that trust is absolutely thrilling.

There is much more to say on this topic of course!

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This is a key to long term success for your couple!

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